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Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head higher than my ass.

... that may sounds a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I've never fully recovered. And I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But...

Do you think girls have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?

It's all have connection.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.

Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?

She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.

Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

In my experience, almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely.

And I am one of them.

The amount on how you accept yourself is the amount also on how women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are.

Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I wasn't aware of shaping.

Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.

But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

If you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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