3-Stage Process for Getting Your Ex Back
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A breakup is a rotten thing for anyone to have to go through, but you don't have to despair about it. Even when it seems like things are unravelling with the one your love, rest assured that it is indeed possible to pull it back together...and I can help you do that!
I've consolidated all of the various things involved in the reunion process into three simple-to-understand stages. Each one has a fair amount involved with it, but I'll do my best to convey the idea as completely as possible.
Stage 1 - Cut Off Contact: I know it seems like the last thing you'd want to do, but in truth the smartest and best move directly after a breakup is to sever your ties with your ex and just give him/her some space to breathe and time to think. Pushing him/her too much right now isn't going to help you much, and you have enough to worry about on the home front.
All relationships end because of problems, with one person so dissatisfied with things that he/she has no choice but to end it. Typically, those problems lie with the person who was left. This means YOU, but don't worry too much. All you have to do is make use of this "downtime" and really analyze your relationship to figure out what the problems were, and make whatever sacrifices, compromises, or changes to yourself that will be necessary for your partner to be happy. I know it seems a little unfair and daunting, but it's what's needed if you really want to be with your ex.
Stage 2 - Reestablish Contact With Your Ex: The time it'll take to do the analysis/self-work part of the first stage should be sufficient to where upon finishing it or at least getting it well underway, the timing should be fairly appropriate for making contact again. First contact should be very light; a phone call or email asking how he/she is doing should suffice. DO NOT broach the subject of getting back together yet.
If the first contact went well, it should be safe to continue to slowly build up contact once more, taking it step by step at a nonaggressive pace. Once you get to the point that you're spending time together, make it a point to do things together that you always enjoyed as a couple. The great memories combined with the work you've been doing on yourself can really open your ex up to the idea of getting back together. Indeed, sometimes your ex will bring it up him/herself!
Stage 3 - Keeping Your Ex: If all this works and you get back together (if you did it right, the odds are in your favor), you have to do your best to KEEP your ex again. You can't revert to your old ways that caused the breakup in the first place, or else it'll end again...and getting back together twice is a lot tougher than just once. Keep the changes you've made to yourself...it'll see you through some tough times.
Remember when you're using this 3-stage system that it's almost entirely based on passive techniques. The most proactivity and aggression you'll be demonstrating should be with yourself, getting your flaws and issues sorted out. When dealing with your ex, the last thing you want to do is scare him/her away, so always work on simply letting your ex see your dedication for him/herself. It's amazing how effective it can be.
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