How to Get Your Ex On The Phone
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It can seem really difficult to get your ex to just talk to you, much less get him back. Fortunately, there are relatively easy ways to do both. Easiest is just getting him to return your calls, and once that is done you have won half the battle! Here is how you can go about getting him on the phone.
Before I show you the best technique for getting him to call you back, I am going to point out some of the more common mistakes people make with these phone calls. Even if you have already made one or more of these errors, it is still ok...but here are some of the things you should try to avoid doing when leaving that magic message:
--Desperately begging him to come back to you is never an effective way to do it. This relies on getting your ex to pity you, and one thing you don't want right now is that kind of weakened position. Even in the 1-in-1000 chance that it gets you together, a relationship founded on pity will NOT hold out.
--Claiming that it is an absolute Emergency and implying that calling you back is a life and death matter. Being so dramatic is not going to make things go any better for you. He knows it is not an emergency, and so do you. It can be hard to deal with this time, but making it out to be an emergency just hurts your chances of getting him back.
--Making some big, long, heartfelt speech on his voicemail about everything you feel and have to get across to him, in the hopes that it will trigger something in his heart and make him come back to you. This only works in the movies...and pretty much never does in real life. Most of the time he will not even hear the whole thing, so save your breath and avoid a lot of humiliation by avoiding doing this.
So now that you know how to NOT make him call you back, here is the secret to getting his attention and all but forcing him to...self-interest and curiosity. These two powerful motivational tools have been used to get people to do unbelievable things that they never would have if they were asked any other way.
Here is an example for you to think about:
-I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me out. I would really love it if you would call me back, because I would like to give you my thanks in person.-
Given this sort of line, your ex will hardly be able to keep from grabbing the phone. He will wonder, what was it he did? How did he help you? What does all this have to do with him? Getting him to ask himself questions like that will be sure to get him on the phone and put you in a good position.
But before you go ANY FURTHER, STOP. When he calls you, if you do not have an underlying plan or strategy for getting him back, you could completely ruin your chances at rebuilding your relationship. DO NOT RISK THIS.
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