How to Talk to Women (or Men) in Your Online Dating Ads
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As an Online Dating Coach, I read a lot of Internet personal ads that - quite frankly - surprise me! Some of the guys who write Online Personal Ads seem to be writing ads that are designed to sell used cars. And from the women? I often see personal ads that even low-end mail order catalogs would refuse.
Take a look at this example. This ad was designed by a woman in her early 40's -
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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"
Communication is apparently high up on this woman's priority list (how nice!) Whether "talking about everything" is also nice would depend, I suppose, on what "everything" might include. It's hard to say what she's referring to when she talks about "bizarre" books, although Stephen King novels come to mind for me. I'm not sure how many guys love chocolate, but for the sake of maintaining positive relationships, I imagine a lot of guys would go along with that one - assuming, of course, that "bizarre" books don't stand in the way first!
With an online dating ad like the ad above, I can only imagine the types of guys who'd reply!
Or - take a look at this online personal ad, from a 29-year-old guy who describes himself as a "Tattoo Teddy Bear" --
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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."
Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?
It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!
Which brings me to our first lesson of today: Always write your Online Dating ads like you're having a normal conversation with someone!
In other words, here's what NOT to do:
1. Don't write your Internet Dating Ads so they sound like magazine advertisements!
2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!
3. Do not - under any circumstances - submit a 10 or 15-word ad for Online Dating!
Follow these guidelines instead:
1. Mention some of your hobbies, interests, and what you enjoy doing on a date. Try to paint an accurate yet imaginative picture of yourself as a real person (and an interesting person at that!)
2. Tell the reader (without bragging) how he or she will feel when they're with you. Put yourself in the mind and soul of your reader, and empathize with them. What are they thinking - and what might they be feeling - while reading your ad?
3. Talk about some of your best qualities. (Are you warm and friendly? A good listener? Are you compassionate and understanding?)
4. What's the benefit (i.e., the "payoff") for answering your ad right now? And finally...
5. Finally - please remember to use a spell-checker on your ad before you click the "submit" button and have it published!
If you follow the guidelines I've suggested above, you'll be on your way to a very successful Internet Dating experience!
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