If you are an Obsessive Girlfriend

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The most amazing traits in women are our ability to submerge ourselves into the man of our desire. It is good to be careful but if you are constantly disturbing in your boy friend's life then you must think again. Women become attached emotionally, some very quickly, and assume that the man shares these same feelings and desires. However, this can be a sure fire way to push the "man of your dreams" out of your life.

Accept him as he is
The first things you have to remember don't try to change him. Only by accepting him as he is, do you have such deep respect and gratitude for him that you would never want him to change in any way for you.

Give him space
Do not try to follow him every time give him some space. If he wants to hang out with friends, encourage it. Let him know that you want him to have a good time and to spend as much time with them as he'd like.

Spend time on yourself
Visit friends, family, take a class, anything you find interesting or would like to learn. Do this even if you have to tear yourself away from your man. He should be supportive of you, and encourage your interests, too.

Set up times to reconnect after spending time apart
This is simple and very effective. After asking for time apart, set up a time and day to reconnect. For instance, if one of you wants to hang out with friends for the day, suggest that you could meet him later for dinner.

Reaffirm who you are and why you are special
You need to do those things that you do best. If you're not sure, try everything. If you're feeling less than confident, or insecure in your relationship, sometimes it helps to go back to something that created a sense of accomplishment.

Suggest he take time for his hobbies and interests
You should suggest him that he should understand the importance of his hobbies and interests, too. Let him know that you can and will find activities to occupy yourself while he enjoys his time. This frees him from feeling guilty for taking that time for himself.

Keep your hobbies and friends
Remind yourself of who you are by reconnecting with friends/relatives, or picking up those old hobbies you've been setting aside. Suggest that he do the same. This is a simple way to show him that you are confident and interesting.

Know when to back off
You must learn his body language. Listen to what he is saying. Men don't always come out and say how they feel, and may not tell you even if you ask. Listen to what your gut instinct is telling you. If you feel he is pulling away, don't force yourself on him more. A possible solution involves letting him know you are available when he wants, while finding other things to do with your time, or discuss the situation with him.
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